People that take pride in their optimism usually believe that hard times create a strong man. Truth be told, with everything that has been going on in the world, you are truly a champion if you can stay positive… yes … it is increasingly hard. People who always choose to see their glass half full have made a lifestyle choice. They try to look at everything with a positive light. From the fights in their relationships to the mistakes they commit at work, they always look at it with the perspective that there is a life lesson to be learned here somewhere. And they usually learn it, the hard way. But do we need to learn things the hard way and can people stay positive all the time ? Just because someone is positive doesn’t mean that they don’t see the problem at hand. If people expect the worst, they will prepare themselves for what could happen ?
While many find themselves anxious or scared about what might happen, there are those who would rather see the positive aspects of every situation. Basically a “learning by doing” type of mentality.
The question here is if it’s authentic optimism or just a role that people are playing in order to detach themselves from complicated feelings.
It is easier to say “Sincerely, love and light. Peace love and understanding”, then actually getting yourself involved in a confrontational discussion.
So how do you convince yourself that everything will pass and that there is always something that you can learn from every experience?
How do you teach yourself to stay optimistic with authenticity without faking it ?
These tips that follow will not teach you how to escape reality. They are small stepping stones towards a more positive lifestyle so you can survive no matter what comes your way .
Quit playing the victim card. Take responsibility. Blaming others will only prolong your suffering. Free yourself from resentment and stop hindering yourself from being resourceful and creative. You have the power to get yourself out of your own mess. Learn to reframe from your negativity The secret to living with an authentic positive mindset is to avoid pessimism at all cost. The quicker you can redirect your negativity to the positive aspect of the situation, the faster you can get yourself out of the mess.
Critical thinking can direct you on how you can solve the problem. But reframing the situation is a skill that will give you the strength and energy you need to fight off negativity.
We all know that negativity happens to EVERYONE.
But if you choose to reframe your mind and spend more time solving the problem, you will take home lessons learned and worry less.
Ask yourself “Does it really matter and will it matter in one weeks time ?”
It’s not about forgetting all the negativity, but rather to learn to live in the moment and understand that this too shall pass. This is the moment when you will start to feel more tranquility and calm. Life is too short to worry about the things that do not really matter.
Change the things within your control Focus on the areas that you have control over. For example, when dealing with a frustrating situation at the office, think before you complain. Complaining will not change the situation or do you any good, be more proactive.
Whenever things do not seem to work out as planned, remember to take on the gratitude
Even when it seems like your life is falling apart, the attitude of gratitude will help you to see the value in everything. Improve your experience by allowing yourself to find satisfaction in everything you do. Whether in good times or bad, always keep the faith that all will be well.